I just had to write in and give my own comments on how chastity has changed my partner william's and My life for the better. We have been together for 20 years and have always had a great and varied sex life, having tried many different things. However, domination/submission has dominated (pardon the pun) our sex life for years, although it has always remained "in the bedroom". Chastity has allowed me to take control of william's excessive masturbation, our sex life and make it more 24/7. . . well, as much as it can be with three children in the house!!
william has always craved my domination but I just felt I couldn't properly assume that control with him masturbating up to 5 times per day and making sex phone calls behind my back. However, the day I locked him up everything changed. He has always worshipped me and been attentive to my needs but this is now at a heightened level. I am the one who decides when we have sex, I am the one who releases him, I am the one with the power. His cock now belongs to me!! I love having him in chastity and he now can't live without it. As long as he feels my control over him he says he would be happy to wear it without release for long periods. I look forward to trying that out! Incidentally, I have him in a CB3000.
My message to all women out there is to realise the power you have over men and use it. By putting william in chastity I have actually set him free. Weird as that may sound I have freed him from being a slave to his own cock and taking up hours masturbating. Of course now he is My slave.
Having said all that male chastity is not as easy as you may think and it takes time to find the right ring/spacer/device combination, etc. . . particularly when there is one nut significantly bigger than the other. It is a committment but one undoubtedly worth taking on!
Would like to share with you, that my husband's chastity has been in my control for nearly three years. They have been the best years of our marriage.
While I do release him on a regular schedule for hygiene and inspection as you recommend, I limit him to only a few minutes out of his cage for that purpose. When I desire to use him for my vaginal pleasure, I release him only for the time needed. Rarely do I let him ejaculate during these times. This way his focus is on my pleasure rather than his. However, I much prefer to be served orally, which I seem to be having the need for more and more these days and for which he kneels to the occasion every time.
About twice a month I release him so he canmasturbate in front of me. This gives me great visual pleasure while providing him with the occasional ejaculation needed to keep his sex organs working properly. During these times he has commented many times to me about how different his penis feels to him when he is stroking it now compared to before he was in the chastity device.
He says it has an entirely different feel but in a positive way. That it seems to have far more sensation to the touch than before..
My first month of chastity is now complete. My wife and I ordered the CB3000 for me, and I began wearing it 4 weeks ago. She agreed to getting the devise to curb my habit of masturbating and surfing porn on the net.
I really didn't expect it to have any effect on my wife. Wrong. The first thing to happen after I started wearing it was my masturbating stopped. My porn surfing has also decreased greatly. I now have a lot of time and energy on my hands that I haven't had before. I expected to be lusting after my wife while in chastity, and I have. I came to terms quickly that the best way to keep her happy with me was to become more willing to do domestic chores for her. This trend started in the first week and had continued. After only 4 weeks it is now my responsibility to keep the floors vacuumed, kitchen cleaned, bathrooms cleaned, and her car cleaned. The thing is, I don't mind at all. I have the time and energy, so it seemed kind of anatural progression.
One of the more surprising things is the reaction of my wife. She has never expressed much interest in the dominant role, but now has taken to ordering me about in the evenings as if I were her underling. There have also been some more personal services for her. I paint her toenails, shave her legs, bathe her, dry her after her bath, and bush her hair in the evenings.
Her dominance has started to spill into other areas of our lives. The other day I was working on a home repair, and having a problem. I was cursing the item I was working on. My wife walked up to me and raised her hand to slap me, scolding me for my bad language. I stood there with my hands at my sides and squinted my eyes. I saw the look on her face when she realized that she could slap me if she wanted, and I would accept it and do nothing about it. The look ended in a little smile, and she slapped my face very hard. She then went on to tell me that I can expect to have my mouth washed out with soap, and another faceslapping if shehears me curse again. This is just one example of the dynamics of our relationship, and how they are changing.
Not surprisingly, the frequency of oral sex has increased. Before my wife only wanted sex about once a week. Now she has started asking for oral every couple of days, and she gets it.
I have a wonderful man in CB-3000 (started him on the CB-2000) chastity right now that has not had an actual orgasmic ejaculation for nearly 2 years. During that time his ball sac has become distended more because of the ring and weight of his confined genital package, forcing his testicles to stay stretched. Several months ago, I had to add a second ring so that he could not pull out because of the looseness of his ball sac. By the end of this year I may add a 3rd ring. This is not a problem for me as I have fetish for men's scrotums. The lower it hangs the more aroused it makes me.
About once every week to 10 days, I have him on his hands and knees with a towel beneath him. . . I use a fly swatter on his balls first, because that seems to make his cock try to get really, really hard in it's plastic cage as well as making my own juices flow. Then I insert the Aneros, in his anal passage, manipulating it with one hand while fingering his balls with the other. . . soon his seminal fluids are dripping like a leaky faucet. I continue until his production drops off to barely an oozing from the tip of his cock which is pressed so hard against the plastic. At that point, I withdraw the aneros and give it to him to wash and cleanse for the next use, but not till he has licked as much of his drippings as possible from the towel, which he then knows to discard of in the laundry room. When those chores and any others I have for him that day are completed, I release him from the cage for 3 minutes. While I watch he must use soap and water to cleanse himself to my satisfaction, lube his penis for it's next several days of confinement, replace the cage and have me lock it in place. If it takes him longer than 3 minutes to complete the task, I punish him. Punishment varies with my mood. Anything from extended ball slapping to reinserting the aneros and letting him lick it clean. Trust me, its rare that he is not able to complete his genital hygiene task in less than 3 minutes. My purpose for limiting his freedom to three minutes is to assure he is not able to get pleasure from touching himself.
Ladies, if you have a man in your life, you can get into male chastity, I highly recommend it. Not only will you find his attentiveness to you increasing, but his overall demeanor will be so much more enjoyable to be around. Jerry and I are not married, but someday we may decide to take that step. Meanwhile, I have everything I want in a man and more.
Ohhhh and for those of you who wonder how I get my sexual satisfaction, with him in a chastity cage all the time. . . . . . it's quite easy. I have only to motion for him to put his face between my legs. (He has become an expert on how I like oral attention. )
Or if I am in the mood for something else, being a scrotum fetish kinda girl, I position him between my legs so that I can use his balls to stimulate my clitoris. I can orgasm repeatedly in this way, and the nice part of it is, I don't have to worry about him cuming and loosing his erection before I am COMPLETELY and TOTALLY satisfied. Nor is there a mess to clean up afterward, except for my own.
I just love the CB 3000! I have had it now for a couple of months and my boyfriend has responded so well, thank you!
I just cant get over how much he wants to cuddle, snuggle and he even willingly sat through Steel Magnolias with no complaints! Every man should be chaste, because I never thought he would respond this way!
Him and me have a great relationship and the control, teasing and denial aspect of male chastity appealed to us both. I must admit, we were scared because all the research we did made male chastity sound like it should be a lifestyle, worn all the time except when playing or rewarding.
First of all, thats not true! It is possible to add chastity to your sex life as a spice and be completely happy. The first time we put it on, he wore it for a week with some teasing and denial just about every night. I got random phone calls from him throughout the day, sometimes mulitple times a day, simply saying that hes thinking of me and has been thinking of me all day. This gave me plenty of room to do a little dirty talk and tease him even more!
On the 7th day we took it off because I could not wait to give him pleasure, afterwards, I wrote my name on his cock so he remembers WHO owns it, and we left it off for about 5 days and then put it back on for just about 3 more days. This has been working very well for us!
Male chastity is a great spice to any couples sex life, and also makes for a great lifestyle too.
I was amazed to find out, other women had found a solution to putting an end to their husbands frequent masturbation sessions, and to the worries of what he had been doing if he came home a bit late, while having positive effects. My husband and I had had several discussions about how it made me feel, to know he liked his hand better than me. . and by his admittance he was not very interested in sex with me as long as he was masturbating a few times everyday. After a few weeks, several visits to your website, and lots of thought, I decided to order the chastity essentials. The CB-2000, the Aneros, and the Casting Willy.
The look on his face, when he saw what I planned, was one I will never forget so long as I live. . . surprisingly, he was more willing than I thought he would be. He told me he knew I was doing the right thing, even though he didnt like the idea of submitting to it.
The first thing I did, was cast his penis and make a full sized duplicate of his erection which he seemed to really get into. Maybe because he had been so proud of it, or maybe because I was taking so much interest in it. I then insisted that he masturbate while I watched.
Reminding him, that from now on he was turning over his right to touch himself, to me. It was very arousing to me, to see him stroking himself. When he was getting close to ejaculating, I used my long, painted, finger nails to scratch over his ball sac. He came with more volume and intensity than I had ever seen of him... but soon his cock softened to the point that the CB-2000 could be put in place. Since then, he has become a real cuddly, thoughtful teddy bear.
Now in the early morning when he wakes up, his attention is focused on me, instead of him getting up and going in the bathroom to masturbate. I enjoy knowing that his genitals! are caged and only accessible by me. I remove the device when my need for his penetrating attention is required, and for weekly hygene maintenence. Otherwise he has been wearing it successfully 24/7. When more than a week passes when I am not interested, such as when my period is severe, he is given a milking with the aneros to keep his prostate healthy. At times during the day when he is not around, I use the dildo duplicate, of his erection, to please myself. It surpasses any of the dildos I have purchased in the past, plus it feels natural knowing its a casting of him.
Brad, feels much better now also. No more of the guilt feelings like when he was sneaking away to masturbate a few times everyday. He also admits that it gives him comfort to know that even if he were tempted by another woman, there is nothing he could do about it, and that according to him, gives him "a sense of security".
